I don’t like self-help. My wife does. She respects the insights that many self help books bring. Even though I don’t like self-help, I’ve found two areas where it’s needed:
1. In prison. Our Canadian prisons tear down a man’s (or woman’s) identity. The very walls, the programs, the attitude of staff, say to the men that they are less than human. This lack of identity interferes with a solid correctional program. Thus, self-help in the form of positive reinforcement is necessary.
2. With writers. We face so much rejection that we start to not believe in ourselves. We study writing for years, we read books, we take classes and then some #$%#@ at a party tells us they could write a book easily. I know a writer who mailed himself a series of postcards, one every day, containing statements such as:
· Every rejection brings me closer to success.
· My writing talent is a gift. The writing I do is my gift to the universe.
· I have nothing to fear from revealing myself in my work.
· I am always growing and my writing keeps getting better.
· I deserve good money for my writing.
· My writing is important, for me, for others.
· I’m ready for success.
· I can afford to take chances.
· My time and my money are well spent investing in my writing career.
· I become a better human being when I write something well.
· The world is a better place because I wrote this morning.
· Though all ideas have been explored, no one has exactly the same perspective as I do. I am unique. The world wants to hear my views.
· Competition is not a problem for me. I’m me, unique.
· Criticism and rejection just make me a better writer.
· I’m a really good writer.