If I could redo my life, I’d change my personality. My wife has the right personality for a writer. She is very quiet, but she never misses a detail. I remember once we met a man for our greenhouse business. “Did you see his ring?” she asked when we left. No, I hadn’t seen his ring or any other detail about the man. But I knew I didn’t like him and didn’t trust him and I knew he looked down on his employees. I picked up vibes from him by the way he talked, by the way he looked at his employees.
The ring was part of the picture and I missed it, a big, expensive, overpowering ring. It was a perfect symbol for the man. My wife could tell you what he was wearing, what color tie and whether his shoes were polished.
I’m always talking to people, even people I don’t know. My wife stands in the background and observes.
Perhaps both perspectives are needed – the visual details and the ability to pick up vibes.